Free Yourself From Resentment

Free Yourself From Resentment

By Jenny Campbell|March 10, 2021

Resentment is a perception of unfairness – you’re not getting the help, appreciation, consideration, affection, reward, or praise you deserve. This sense of unfairness, together with an innate anger, combine to give the root of resentment. It is also an amplification process of three steps:– there is the trigger for anger.– there is an amplification of that anger because of the unfairness of the situation.– the universalising of that situation…

Resentment Halt

Resentment Halt

By Jenny Campbell|March 3, 2021

Here are some typical symptoms of resentment. Which ones are yours? Confusion – Why don’t others get it? Why don’t they understand and appreciate what you have achieved? Inner self-talk battle – half of you is angry that you didn’t say what you felt, the other half is feeling selfish or ashamed. Short-temperedness – You pick a fight because you are not getting what you need. Switching attention to others’…

Feeling Stale

Feeling Stale

By Jenny Campbell|January 13, 2021

The word that is with me right now is stale. I can feel it, my clients feel it, you may feel it. It seems that whilst the world is very unstable and uncertain, many feel stale in what they are doing day to day. Here’s what the standard advice can include: If you’re in a stale relationship, either spice it up (find common interests or get stuck into proper conversation…

How resilience coaching makes the difference

How resilience coaching makes the difference

By Jenny Campbell|July 13, 2020

What is the difference between resilience and normal executive coaching? Two main things: Being able to be aware of the client’s resilience defines very clearly their capacity for change. That means it can help you as the coach set expectations for yourself and the client. Given whatever start point the client has, knowing the key things for their resilience needs, for that exact start point, helps sift through the masses of…

Resilience Quotes

Resilience Quotes

By Jenny Campbell|February 5, 2020

These are the elements in this quote by Corey Keyes: high levels of emotional well-being happy and satisfied have purpose feel a degree of mastery accept all parts of themselves sense of personal growth sense of autonomy internal locus of control choose fate in life instead of being a victim of fate Go through each one. Rate how much you have this in your life using a scale of 1-10…

Busting The Myths of Resilience Series Myth 3 – Confidence is needed for resilience

Busting The Myths of Resilience Series Myth 3 – Confidence is needed for resilience

By Jenny Campbell|January 20, 2020

Which comes first then, confidence or resilience? Part 1: The Link with Secure Bases “Much of the academic and popular management literature states that for resilience you need confidence: ‘Self confidence is a crucial component of resilience because it creates a forward motion of positivity and optimism.’1 Many resilience evaluation methods use confidence as a survey measure contributing to your output resilience level. The voice of this body of literature…

Myth of Resilience 1: Resilience is being tough

Myth of Resilience 1: Resilience is being tough

By Jenny Campbell|October 7, 2019

Chapter 1: Extract The Resilience Dynamic®. “Hands up, do any of the following statements resonate with you? Or are they part of your organisation’s culture? Don’t show your emotion unless you’re happy and smiling. Just say everything is ‘fine’. Don’t show you are feeling vulnerable. Don’t show you are stressed. Don’t show you don’t know. Beat yourself up for being so stupid, but only after they have gone. Do show…

Is resilience on the side?

Is resilience on the side?

By Jenny Campbell|March 28, 2019

In the Resilience Engine’s experience, our clients and colleagues want to have both wellbeing and performance. Both, without compromising one or the other. What their experience is however, in pretty much every domain in their life, especially in work, is that you get wellbeing versus performance. One is countering the other. There’s a tension, even a fight going between the two. It’s so normal our clients don’t notice it. So…

Principle 10: Model It!

Principle 10: Model It!

By Jenny Campbell|February 27, 2019

These results demonstrate a somewhat profound disconnect between what organisations believe are the best strategies to build resilience, and what they are actually doing. In fact, there is a strong suggestion in the results that organisations largely do not know exactly which programmes produce the best results in the cultivation of resilience. Or, that they may in fact be pinning their hopes on initiatives that do little or nothing to…

The Truth Behind Denial

The Truth Behind Denial

By Jenny Campbell|February 20, 2019

Do you tell yourself the truth about what’s really going on? Within the field of resilience, we know that enabling people to see for real the ‘resilience data’ of any situation they find themselves in – under the cosh, in crisis, or with complex opportunities to navigate – is the basis of making a positive change. Resilience goes up and down. It’s not about emotions or an inability to manage,…