Resentment is a perception of unfairness – you’re not getting the help, appreciation, consideration, affection, reward, or praise you deserve. This sense of unfairness, together with an innate anger, combine to give the root of resentment. It is also an amplification process of three steps:– there is the trigger for anger.– there is an amplification of that anger because of the unfairness of the situation.– the universalising of that situation…
Here are some typical symptoms of resentment. Which ones are yours? Confusion – Why don’t others get it? Why don’t they understand and appreciate what you have achieved? Inner self-talk battle – half of you is angry that you didn’t say what you felt, the other half is feeling selfish or ashamed. Short-temperedness – You pick a fight because you are not getting what you need. Switching attention to others’…
What is the difference between resilience and normal executive coaching? Two main things: Being able to be aware of the client’s resilience defines very clearly their capacity for change. That means it can help you as the coach set expectations for yourself and the client. Given whatever start point the client has, knowing the key things for their resilience needs, for that exact start point, helps sift through the masses of…
I have coached two clients in the last week, each of whom had deep issues around identity, values and beliefs that were showing up in their leadership. The level of exposure is new for both clients; they have previously climbed their respective corporate ladders in a way that whilst stretching, had been essentially safe. In the coaching sessions, both clients were really rocked because in a new context, their leadership…
Helping your client understand for real the ‘resilience data’ of any situation they find themselves in – under the cosh, in crisis, or with complex opportunities to navigate – is a fundamental of resilience coaching. Resilience is your capacity for change. So it is with someone’s resilience that the following, similar to Timothy Gallwey insights from his Inner Game Series, Resilience today (ie capacity for change today) = Resilience Potential…
Is your client brimming with New Year resolutions and goals that sweep both of you up into an (potentially over) optimistic view of their capacity to enact on these changes? New Year resolutions can be great, if they’re doable and motivating. They really can help. But with many clients, they just say ‘humbug’ to all that, because repeated attempts at the same kinds of thing – getting better worklife balance,…
In partnership with the Academy of Executive Coaching, we recently carried out a survey on the demand for resilience in the workplace. With over 200 respondents we think the results are a shock. And so we wanted to share them with you on behalf of your own resilience and that of your clients. To provide a frame for the results of the survey, we will use The Resilience Dynamic®: Many of you…
One of the fundamental principles to the Sleep, Think, Eat, Move well (STEM) wellbeing model is that all parts have equal relevance. Think of equilibrium where our entire system remains in balance.To support clients in sustaining breakthrough and creating a life where they flourish and thrive, appreciating the connectivity between ourselves and our universe is fundamental. However that is for another day. For now let’s stick to some simple…
Ever find with your clients that their inspiration has dissipated somehow? Hidden because of the busyness of their world? What about your own inspiration? Can you get hold of it quickly whenever you need that extra oomph in your day? The power of inspiration is phenomenal. And being able to get hold of it – whenever,wherever – is also phenomenal, and part of a personal resilience toolkit. People often seek inspiration…
When is the last time you really had a laugh? Think about it. Do you seek out ways to get a laugh? Or are you just keeping it together, often feeling tired, perhaps distracted because of work or home life pressures, and need to wind down before you’re in the mood to even think about anything remotely funny? (thank you very much!) How many of your clients are in…