Resentment is a perception of unfairness – you’re not getting the help, appreciation, consideration, affection, reward, or praise you deserve. This sense of unfairness, together with an innate anger, combine to give the root of resentment. It is also an amplification process of three steps:– there is the trigger for anger.– there is an amplification of that anger because of the unfairness of the situation.– the universalising of that situation…
Here are some typical symptoms of resentment. Which ones are yours? Confusion – Why don’t others get it? Why don’t they understand and appreciate what you have achieved? Inner self-talk battle – half of you is angry that you didn’t say what you felt, the other half is feeling selfish or ashamed. Short-temperedness – You pick a fight because you are not getting what you need. Switching attention to others’…
The word that is with me right now is stale. I can feel it, my clients feel it, you may feel it. It seems that whilst the world is very unstable and uncertain, many feel stale in what they are doing day to day. Here’s what the standard advice can include: If you’re in a stale relationship, either spice it up (find common interests or get stuck into proper conversation…
What is the difference between resilience and normal executive coaching? Two main things: Being able to be aware of the client’s resilience defines very clearly their capacity for change. That means it can help you as the coach set expectations for yourself and the client. Given whatever start point the client has, knowing the key things for their resilience needs, for that exact start point, helps sift through the masses of…
These are the elements in this quote by Corey Keyes: high levels of emotional well-being happy and satisfied have purpose feel a degree of mastery accept all parts of themselves sense of personal growth sense of autonomy internal locus of control choose fate in life instead of being a victim of fate Go through each one. Rate how much you have this in your life using a scale of 1-10…
In my earlier career when I worked as a business analyst, I worked for a boss that was, frankly, a nightmare. In a small team of very smart people who were tasked with deciding on the IT platform and systems to support a whole number of business changes, she was massively controlling, and it caused great stress amongst us all. She would micro manage, insist on her ways of doing…
Chapter 1: Extract The Resilience Dynamic®. “Hands up, do any of the following statements resonate with you? Or are they part of your organisation’s culture? Don’t show your emotion unless you’re happy and smiling. Just say everything is ‘fine’. Don’t show you are feeling vulnerable. Don’t show you are stressed. Don’t show you don’t know. Beat yourself up for being so stupid, but only after they have gone. Do show…
Here’s a question for you. How do you enter into your holiday? Are you racing to finish everything off, maybe even adding those ‘would-like-to-do items’ into your to-do list just to get them out of your head once and for all? It means you’re battling right up to the last minute without slowing down, and you kind of catapult into the holiday with that race-race-race habit dominating. And that spills…
Resilience is a buffer to stress. Those with the highest resilience do not suffer from the negative side of stress. How does it work? The more resilience in your system, the more you can choose your reaction to stressors. That means you can choose not to feel the negative stress reaction. In order to be in a position to choose, you need to build the foundations for your resilience so…
In this penultimate week of stress awareness month, the Resilience Engine insights illustrate how the stress reaction works in our brains and body. There is a clear tipping point during any stress reaction, when normal stress-reversal mechanisms stop working. This is the point of hijack. People at high levels of resilience do not cross this tipping point. They have built a platform of resilience that acts as a buffer to…