Chapter 1: Extract The Resilience Dynamic®. “Hands up, do any of the following statements resonate with you?Or are they part of your organisation’s culture? Don’t show your emotion unless you’re happy and smiling.Just say everything is ‘fine’.Don’t show you are feeling vulnerable.Don’t show you are stressed.Don’t show you don’t know.Beat yourself up for being so stupid, but only after they have gone. Do show when you’ve punched through the challenge.Do
Here’s a question for you. How do you enter into your holiday? Are you racing to finish everything off, maybe even adding those ‘would-like-to-do items’ into your to-do list just to get them out of your head once and for all? It means you’re battling right up to the last minute without slowing down, and you kind of catapult into the holiday with that race-race-race habit dominating. And that spills
Resilience is a buffer to stress. Those with the highest resilience do not suffer from the negative side of stress. How does it work? The more resilience in your system, the more you can choose your reaction to stressors. That means you can choose not to feel the negative stress reaction. In order to be in a position to choose, you need to build the foundations for your resilience so
In this penultimate week of stress awareness month, the Resilience Engine insights illustrate how the stress reaction works in our brains and body. There is a clear tipping point during any stress reaction, when normal stress-reversal mechanisms stop working. This is the point of hijack. People at high levels of resilience do not cross this tipping point. They have built a platform of resilience that acts as a buffer to
In this week during April, stress awareness month, the Resilience Engine gets into why one person reacts differently than another to the same situation. You’ve got it, it’s all down to resilience. There are of course stressors that everyone would find traumatic; these are entirely outside our control and are classed as ‘absolute’ stressors. ‘Relative’ stressors are quite different; people’s reactions will depend on their resilience. The Resilience Engine uses
In this week during April, stress awareness month, the Resilience Engine gets into what triggers stress the most. It’s pretty straightforward in the clients we work with, leaders and managers across all sectors. It’s down to overload. It’s related to one of the top three barriers to resilience. This barrier is a cracker. We fundamentally overestimate the capacity we have in ourselves, versus the capacity required to execute what’s on
Resilience means no stress Yes that’s right, with resilience you don’t get the negative stress reaction. With resilience you get high performance and wellbeing; both without compromise. This fundamental capability is about adaptability, your capacity for change. In this stress awareness month, the Resilience Engine offers a straightforward look at stress: what it is, the good and bad sides of stress, and how resilience acts as a buffer to stress.
In the Resilience Engine’s experience, our clients and colleagues want to have both wellbeing and performance. Both, without compromising one or the other. What their experience is however, in pretty much every domain in their life, especially in work, is that you get wellbeing versus performance. One is countering the other. There’s a tension, even a fight going between the two. It’s so normal our clients don’t notice it. So
Do you tell yourself the truth about what’s really going on? Within the field of resilience, we know that enabling people to see for real the ‘resilience data’ of any situation they find themselves in – under the cosh, in crisis, or with complex opportunities to navigate – is the basis of making a positive change. Resilience goes up and down. It’s not about emotions or an inability to manage,
New Year resolutions and goals. It’s so admirable when folk are making them, driven by them, committing to them and actually achieving them!! As an official ‘middle years’ person (over 50), I no longer set them because they would be the same ones as the previous N years, and why set them if I haven’t been able to achieve them thus far?! Do I aim for nothing new then? No.